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8 Ways to Stop an Elderly Person From Driving When All Else Fails

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What to do if your parent or spouse refuses to stop driving

Unsafe senior driving is a serious issue. When you see warning signs that your parent or spouse is no longer safe behind the wheel, it’s time to get them to stop driving.

But some older adults stubbornly refuse to give up the keys, no matter what. You might have already done everything you can think of, like:

  1. Holding repeated conversations to ask them to stop

  2. Showing proof that they’re no longer safe drivers

  3. Calling a family meeting so it’s not just coming from you

  4. Reassuring them that they’ll still be able to go out

Even after all that, they still refuse to give up their keys. Don’t despair, when everything else has failed, there are 8 more things you can do to stop an elderly person from driving.

Don’t feel guilty

These methods might make you feel like you’re betraying them or being the “bad guy.” But what you’re really doing is using last resort methods to protect their safety and the safety of other drivers and nearby pedestrians.

8 ways to stop an elderly person from driving

1. Anonymously report them to the DMV The Department of Motor Vehicles (DMV) allows people to report unsafe drivers, often anonymously. You don’t have to be a doctor, anyone can file a report.

The benefit is that your older adult won’t blame you for taking their license away. Instead, they’ll be angry with the DMV.

Each state’s DMV has different procedures. Typically when someone is reported as an unsafe driver, they’re called in for a driver’s license retest regardless of when their license expires. Contact your local DMV to find out what is needed in your state to request a retest.

If you don’t feel comfortable filing a DMV report, speak confidentially with their doctor and share your concerns. Ask the doctor to write a letter that you can take to the DMV.

2. Use Alzheimer’s or dementia forgetfulness to your advantage Alzheimer’s or dementia can cause seniors to become irrational and stubborn about driving.

In these situations, an effective strategy is to remove the car and any reminders of driving. At the same time, creatively distract them from the topic until they forget about driving altogether.

This approach spares them from angry confrontations or getting depressed about not being allowed to drive.

3. Have a relative or close friend “borrow” the car If your older adult’s car isn’t in the garage, they won’t be able to drive it. To keep them from getting suspicious, you could arrange for a relative or close friend to borrow the car.

For example, the relative could pretend that their own car is in the shop for major repairs. If it’s a young relative, they could say they need a car for school or a job. When the car is out of sight or unavailable for a good reason, your older adult may be more willing to give up driving.

You don’t have to actually give the car away, that’s just a cover story to get the car out of their sight. After that, it’s your decision to keep, sell, or give away the car.

4. Hide or “lose” the car keys Another way to keep your older adult from driving is to hide the car keys or pretend they’re lost. It’s best to do this while they’re asleep so they won’t suspect that you’ve taken them.

If they ask you where the keys are, pretend that you have no idea. You could even help them look and after searching the house, declare the keys hopelessly lost. Say that you’ll get a new set, but it could take a while.

5. Take the car for repairs Pretending that the car is having a problem is another effective method. Tell your older adult that the car is at the auto shop for repairs. This gets the car away from the house – similar to having a relative borrow it.

Your senior may ask why the car has been in the shop for so long. Be prepared to say something like:

  1. A repair part hasn’t arrived yet

  2. The repairs cost more than the car is worth

  3. The mechanic says the car can’t be fixed

6. Disable the car A good way to prevent someone from driving is to disable their car. Do something simple like unplugging the battery or locking the steering wheel with a “Club.”

Even if they managed to get the keys, they still wouldn’t be able to drive a disabled car.

7. Sell the car Selling their car is another way of making sure your older adult can no longer drive. Make up a story for why this is necessary. For example, you might say that a close relative needs money and this is the only way to help.

You don’t have to actually sell the car if you don’t want to, but this is another way to get it out of sight for a seemingly legitimate reason.

8. Hide your own car and car keys If your car is still available, your older adult might try to take your keys and drive your car. If that’s happening, make sure to hide your own keys and park your car out of their sight.

Whenever you need to go out, you can say that a friend is giving you a ride or that you’re taking public transportation.

Bottom line

If your older adult refuses to stop driving, you might be forced to use these methods. They might seem extreme, but they’re effective.

Many seniors give up the fight when their driver’s license is revoked. Others will give up the fight after you use some of these creative ways to get rid of or disable their car.

It may take some time, so be prepared to stick with your story. The most important thing is that your older adult will be safely off the roads.

By DailyCaring Editorial Team Image: Cheap Car Insurance

A version of this article was originally published on Sixty and Me

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